losing my confident as a mum

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losing my confident as a mum

Postby username » Fri 17 Dec, 2010 9:47 am

I find it very frustrating not been able not settle my baby she is 10 week and we have not had much rest. She is very unsettled all the the and I can feel I am loosing my confident as a mum. Any good idea, not what I could do diffrent?
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Re: losing my confident as a mum

Postby Dinkie » Mon 10 Jan, 2011 12:59 pm

I do know what you are going through. The sleep deprivation alone is enough to do your head in let alone all of that constant crying. I don't have the answer for you, my baby had colic, but if you can find the time to phone Ngala's helpline they are just amazing to talk to. I felt better just being able to honestly talk to someone and they did give me some great tips.

Keep your head up - you are doing just fine :)
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Re: losing my confident as a mum

Postby NgalaOnline » Sun 16 Jan, 2011 4:26 pm

Hi Username

Thank you for your post. The feelings you are having are very common. Early parenthood can be a very challenging time, and it is very common for parents to feel overwhelmed and struggle with maintaining their confidence. It can be very hard to have feelings like this. It is important to look after your own needs at this time and to seek as much support as you can. You might find it beneficial to talk about the emotions you are experiencing to a supportive person such as your GP, your child health nurse, or someone on the Ngala Helpline. It is also helpful to seek practical support whilst you are struggling with fatigue and the adjustment to parenting, such as asking friends or family to help you care for the baby or to provide you with a cooked meal for the nights you are very tired. You may find the Ngala tipsheet "Feelings and Expectations About Becoming a Parent" helpful:

http://www.ngala.com.au/You-and-Your-Fa ... nce-Guides

It is very common for ten week old babies to be unsettled. For your peace of mind you may like to have your baby medically reviewed by your GP to reassure yourself that there is no medical cause for her unsettledness. For settling ideas you may find the Ngala Tipsheets "Secrets of Good Sleepers", "How Does My Newborn Sleep", and "Sleep and Settling 0-5 years" - all available on the link above helpful. The link below "Settling Tips for Parents" may also be helpful:

http://www.ngala.com.au/You-and-Your-Fa ... or-Parents
This information is general in nature and should not be used as a substitute for the personalized assistance that can be received from the Ngala Helpline by telephone.

For families residing in Western Australia you can also contact the
Ngala Helpline
Telephone 9368 9368 or 1800 111 546 for country access
Available 7 days a week, 8am to 8pm
or request a callback online http://www.ngala.com.au/Ngala-and-You/Ngala-Helpline/Contact-Ngala-Helpline-Online

For helplines in other Australian states please follow this link
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Re: losing my confident as a mum

Postby NeedSomeHelp » Sun 23 Jan, 2011 4:19 pm

Oh love you sound so down. Take care of yourself, it sounds like you're doing a great job. Its pretty hard looking after little ones, we all feel a bit like this some days. You aren't alone!
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