Feeling exhausted

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Feeling exhausted

Postby ben » Sun 23 Jan, 2011 12:32 pm

Hi, I am really struggling to get through the day, my 4 month old is quite unsettled in the day, breastffeding can be difficult with him pulling off a lot as though he is in pain, arches his back, gaining weight despite vomiting a fair bit. Once he settles in the evening he sleeps well at night. I love him to bits, but I feel more routine in the day would help me get through the days.What can I do?
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Re: Feeling exhausted

Postby NgalaOnline » Wed 26 Jan, 2011 12:34 pm

Hi Ben

Thanks for your post. It sounds as though you are experiencing some challenging times whilst parenting your baby. At four months of age many babies become distractible feeders and it is common for parents to notice that babies will frequently pull off and look around rather than feed. It is also common for babies of this age to be able to drain the breast quite rapidly and therefore be able to take a full feed in five minutes or so. Many parents notice that the distractible feeding can settle by around six months, and feeding in a quiet and undistracting location can help during this phase.

Some of the behaviours you describe your baby doing can sometimes be signs of gastro-oesophageal reflux in babies. Whilst each of these behaviours can sometimes be normal, the combination of unsettled periods plus difficulty feeding, back arching, vomiting and appearing to be in pain indicate that it would be worthwhile having your baby reviewed by a medical practitioner. When having a baby assessed for reflux it is often worthwhile asking for a referral to a paediatrician. There are a variety of ways in which to support babies with reflux, and a medical practitioner should be able to explore these options with you if your baby is diagnosed with reflux.

You may find it helpful to look at the website http://www.reflux.org.au to learn more about reflux and see if you feel this applies to your baby. If you are concerned that your baby has reflux you may like to try keeping him in an upright position during and after feeds to see if this assists him. You may also like to review the following information on breastfeeding a baby with reflux:


Ngala has several services that could assist you with settling your baby during the day, but it is best to make changes when you are confident that your child is well and for this reason it would be appropriate to seek medical assessment of your child before making any further changes.

Caring for an unsettled baby is very draining, so be sure to take care of your own needs and seek support from family and friends at the moment. Having some time out away from caring your child, having social interaction with friends and other parents, and receiving practical help such as assistance with domestic chores or childcare can all help when experiencing challenges in childrearing. If you feel your mood is low you may like to consider talking to your child health nurse or GP about your feelings.
This information is general in nature and should not be used as a substitute for the personalized assistance that can be received from the Ngala Helpline by telephone.

For families residing in Western Australia you can also contact the
Ngala Helpline
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Available 7 days a week, 8am to 8pm
or request a callback online http://www.ngala.com.au/Ngala-and-You/Ngala-Helpline/Contact-Ngala-Helpline-Online

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Re: Feeling exhausted

Postby jeanie » Tue 01 Mar, 2011 9:28 pm

HI Ben, parentingis so much harder than i ever imagined so hang in there it does get better but is still pretty constant through the different stages. I found as time goes by i have learnt to adapt a bit more and be flexible to cope with all the changes. :)
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